Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.

This quote is suggesting that when you love someone, you should allow them to make their own choices in life and not pressure them to do something that would make you happy. It means that you should accept them for who they are and respect their decisions, no matter if these decisions are different from yours. You should not try to control the actions or thoughts of someone you care about but rather be supportive of them and their choices.